I think I just developed this idea that I must have multiple personalities; Jeremy would definitely agree. J
Let’s start with the “high school/college” me: Growing up in a small town, I let my identity be defined by the people around me. I was weak, needed approval, catty, insecure, and never once looked in the mirror to see that “I was beautiful”. I also looked to others for approval and needed attention constantly. Psychiatrist would probably say that has to do with abandonment issues and the like, but I simply say that I needed to“love the skin I was in (sorry Dove), and also to love the me inside." And I didn’t, nor did I even know how to begin.
Maybe that is small town also, because I left home to go to another small town for college. I never knew until I moved away from all of that who I really was. I ran away from a wedding only to end up in a place where I knew very few people, and I finally found me. She was hiding inside, waiting for approval and friends and love, but I found her with no one else around. I did have some dark days during those times, but the me that has surfaced is so much better. I do have some regrets though. I regret that I never felt like it was okay to show people who I really am. I think I would have had a whole lot more fun letting the real me show up. So here I am:
1. Sarcastic (Who me?)
2. I trust easily, yet, I can’t get over broken trust.
3. I am an obsessive reader.
4. Speaking of Obsessive – I have OCD, and yes I am medicated. I think this is why my house is not clean. I take medicine, so it won’t keep me up at night.
5. I feel things I probably shouldn’t….like riding in the car with my children is fun – nope, not at all!
6. I love my children beyond all comprehension.
7. I am passionate about the idea that my husband may drive me crazy (and me him), but I am stuck with him. No really, I definitely married up. That is not me being weak in saying that, but appreciating that I made the best choice ever in marrying him. He is beautiful inside and out. I may not like him all days, but I love him endlessly! I truly think I am a bigger thorn in his side than he is in mine. (Shh! Don’t tell him I admitted it.)
8. Loving and Giving – I love with all of me and give accordingly. Unfortunately that may be frustrating when I feel like others are not reciprocating.
9. Lazy at times – My day job takes everything I have, so sometimes, I just want to veg out!
10. My house is never going to be spotless.
11. There are some days that I just need to be alone. Not because I don’t like people, but I have been the sole decision-maker for 100+, so I need some time to make decisions for me. Unfortunately, if I go long periods without making this time, I tend to spew venom. (Poor Jeremy)
12. I am often tacky in speech. I say what is on my mind, even if it is shocking. I learned very early that when it came out of a 2-year-old’s mouth that it wasn’t so funny anymore. I have toned it down!
13. I know/wonder about crazy things. For example, you make a cup of snot a day; so what are you actually doing with it if you are not blowing your nose? OR Why do we look inside our Kleenex after we blow our noses, or even look inside the toilet or on the toilet paper after we go? It is one disgusting habit.
I know that must baffle the people I come into contact with from home. I know that I have changed. I know that I am comfortable and beautiful 30 pounds heavier. (Big secret, I know.) But I love me – all of me! I love the reclusive me that needs to crawl in bed and let my brain rest from the stresses of the day, because sometimes they are endless.
But more importantly, I am passionate about my husband and kids, and I will fight tooth, nail, toe-jam, and nose hairs to make sure they are taken care of and happy. Please do not cross momma bear, because since she has gotten her gallbladder out, she may fart on you!
Love to all! Happy Hump Day!